The older you get, the less you care about what people think. I think this is partly because of work. When we get older, we have to work, right? And when we work, our time also becomes a lot more valuable. We realise how important it is and to sit there for 3 hours not being yourself just feels like such a waste of your time.
If you’re not in touch with yourself, if you’re not comfortable enough to express who you are, then people feel that. They feel you’re fake. I used to have troubles with this. I knew the things to say to sound good, but people started to feel like I was full of shit.
It wasn’t until about a year ago that this changed. It was a girl that caused this change, of course! She was a little older than me and she could feel that these characteristics weren’t me. She told me to just be myself…
I discovered that I have better interpersonal relationships if I don’t think too much. I can’t really explain it, but before I was bringing my working life into private life. At work, you have to think a lot about what you say – I guess you always do, to some extent. But the more you think, the more you go around the topic in a polite way, for example, and people don’t like it.
It is a waste of time. Why would I pretend to be someone else?
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