One of the biggest concerns I have right now is that my kid has both mother tongues; Slovene and Portuguese. Living here, with a Slovenian Mum, Slovene won’t be a problem, but with Portuguese I’m not sure. Having it as a mother tongue is different from learning it after. You really need to think in Portuguese and not just translate it.
Creating a family means a lot of decisions and giving things up, but it’s definitely worth it. My wife and I actually married twice, once in Slovenia and once in Portugal. Our families come from very different cultures, and marrying means not just starting your own family but also bringing two families together.
It’s not so easy sometimes because my parents don’t speak Slovene and my wife’s parents don’t speak English, so when they meet there’s a lot of communication through gestures. But they really like to spend time together. It feels more or less like childish communication sometimes because it’s all based around gestures…
At some point you realise your life is limited. You’re not going to last forever. You come to understand that even you, your identity, will deteriorate through time with your disappointments and everything in life that always damages you. Getting old doesn’t just damage you physically, but it also damages your identity, your honesty and your beliefs. Every disappointment changes you.
Society is shaping who you are, and that’s probably not very good. You have an identity that’s with you from day one, and then you have to fit in all the time. At different stages we have to fit in, and this process of fitting in doesn’t consider what your needs are or what you want, but instead the context of everybody else and what are the preferences of everybody else.
I studied pure maths: algebra and logic. It’s a very free and independent discipline. You can do it wherever you want, even on the moon, and it always works independently of where you are all you need is a pencil and paper. It also has a very creative parts of it, especially when you go into quite abstract pure mathematics, it almost has a feeling of the conceptual arts.
Da Vinci for instance was very obsessed with mathematics. The creative aspect of pure mathematics goes on a very strong focus onto something quite abstract. To get there you need quite a lot of practice, you need a lot of time even just to get into it, it’s almost like entering some kind of trance state.
Working in this level of abstraction, in mathematics you are creating new worlds which might not exist, based on concept. Similarly you do this in conceptual art.
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