“I feel like there’s more human connection in India. You live for someone else there, and someone else lives for you. That bond you share with your own people is something I’ve not experienced anywhere else. What’s the point of life if it isn’t for human connection? You just work, you come back home and you’re on your own again. You don’t have anything to look forward to during the day without human connection.
That doesn’t necessarily have to mean a romantic partner, but just sharing a drink with a group of friends at the end of the day makes my day worth living.
I’ve lived away from my parents ever since I was a kid. They went to Dubai when I was only a few years old so I grew up with my uncle and auntie. Even at a young age, my uncle always instilled a special way of thinking in me. If I was crying, he’d ask me why. And when he asked that, there were so many times I didn’t even know why I was crying. It made me think very deliberately about what I do. And that kind of thinking stuck with me ever since….
Cricket was the only thing I did as a child. I wanted to be a professional. And so I played every single day. My life revolved around it. There’s a big difference between the way we play and the way the English play. For English it’s a social game. But or Indians and Pakistanis, it’s a matter of life and death. I can never play a friendly game of cricket. Most English guys play it so casually that they’ll have a beer before the game. Whereas I’m already preparing for it the night before!
I was quite well-known in college for sports and debates and making short films. I used to get my fair share of female attention.
“I’ll always choose cricket over girls.”
My parents are looking for a good family and good girl for me. It can be an arranged marriage, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m allowed to marry whoever I want. If they find someone they like they can suggest her to me. I don’t have an issue with it because it’s not forced on me. Ultimately, it’s still my role to talk to her and figure out if we’d be good together.
I feel the West doesn’t have an option except to take up yoga and meditation. If they want to remain human, they will have to look beyond simply iPads and technology. To remain a humane human you’ll need some sort of connection with a divine energy.”
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